I recently wrote a personal blog post discussing about my views and experiences in dating. Comparing to heterosexual relations, gay aren't given the luxury of being truly open with themselves. You can always be out to the world with your sexuality, but are you ever truly free to pursue whoever you want?

I personally feel a subconscience drawback every time I want to talk to a guy. I feel as if they're going to be the one bad egg in the bunch. It makes my question the extent of my fear of rejection though, since it's not the rejection I fear moreso than the chance of physical retaliation.

And thus, a generation of Grindr is born. Not myself personally (and no disrespect to anyone who does use it, get it girl), but I do however have a process of screening out potential gay guys in my area. I have to go through an elaborate network of friends, and confirm sexuality through research and digging up information about a guy before I can even talk to them. I feel as if I'm a spider building a web around these poor guys.

So, TLDR version, do you feel as if you have to prey to find guys? Do you have the luxury of a bustling gay community in your life that makes you exempt from this process?

Come to Canada! We accept pretty much everything.

to many Muslims in canada...

This is the one thing we don't like here, people that hate. Feel free to leave.

lmao.

Nonsense.

The idea that they "aren't given the luxury of being truly open with themselves" is about as BS as they come. You don't need anyone's permission to be "open with yourself" that is an internal concept, not an external one.

Physical retaliation?

You mean the way that men can be slapped, punch, tased, struck or damaged via proxy violence by women with absolutely no repercussion to the perpetrating female?
Tell me more about how homosexuals "have fear" when approaching each other.

Welcome to being a man in a woman's world.

If you ask a woman for coffee, this is an advocation of rape.
According to Rebecca Watson a well known feminist.

Tell me again how hard it is to approach other men.




I have a strong dislike of the homosexual community.
They suffer from "Special Snowflake Syndrome" without the breastage to back it up.

At least you don't live in like, Mumbai or wherever where it is a capital punishment for a man to be sexually attracted to men.

i borderline agree with jtf. being open with oneself is purely internal. if you can't do it you're the one to blame. fear of retribution for approaching a guy? guys can be rebuked for approaching a girl just as easily, maybe even more so. generally, society is on your side at this point. if he rebukes you too harshly for being gay, he's the social outcast in the situation. research to confirm sexuality? just drop a not so subtle hint or ask him outright. boom, you know, he knows, and y'all can move forward or move on.

No dude that I know of is going to punch you in the face for trying to be gay with him.

At the worst, he'll just avoid you.

This is pretty much what happens when men approach women to whom they are not flattering.

It's got to suck to have a much smaller sexual marketplace than straight people do, but I think your fears are pretty much unwarranted. I think among people of all sexual orientations, a fear of rejection is normal. It's unfortunate that you're afraid of physical retaliation, but try to realize that it is an irrational fear, and that should help.

I generally agree
being open with yourself is definitely an internal concept, but being open with society involves a very external element, and if your not open with society then you're not ready to go searching for a partner.

Although in America I'd say the tides have turned, and our society is becoming more and more supportive of gays; however that's just us. Out here in Russia I don't even think I can tell my closest friends, for they'd probably beat me up and never have anything to d with me.
If I wanted to seek a lover here, there really is no safe way to do it. Either I cruise the internet and meet up with strangers, or I risk my social circles and start engaging someone who I merely suspect to be gay