Originally Posted by Ion Recovery
"Choosing" to be gay is totally bogus. I didnt choose to be heterosexual, I just am.
The way I think of the choice to be gay is not through a one time decision to be gay but a decision on what we choose to surround ourselves with and what we choose to like. For instance, like any modern red-blooded teen, I had a strong dislike for oldies music. (40s, 50s, 60s) Then I got a job at an antique store that played that music for hours every day. Now I enjoy it. I have my own oldies Pandora station. I didn't choose to like that music, I chose my environment which influenced my desires.
I know this process doesn't work for everyone. Sometimes when people are over exposed to something they don't like it just makes them like it even less. I have the personality that allows me to learn to like things I didn't previously like if I want to. I could probably learn to like almost anything that's not harmful to me. If I wanted to be gay I could surround myself with a gay environment and learn to like men. If I wanted to be straight I could shun the gay environment and surround myself with a straight environment.
I know this doesn't work the same for everyone but that's my own perceptions on the "choice" to be gay or not.