Originally Posted by Gazzi
I didn't see the original thread you're referring to, but odds are if she is this far in her life and stuff continues to be one tragedy after another, you're not going to change anything.
it's very appealing to some people to find someone with problems, or "baggage" as you refer to it, and help them get out of their funk to be a functioning member of society. however, unless she wants to change the way things are going herself, you're not going to be able to do anything and it will prove to be a futile effort that consumes a great amount of your time.
You underestimate the power of human mentality, you can crumble the most happiest of people, and bring up the ones that are completely lost, given the information you know about them, their needs, fears, what they want, were they wanna go, it is not that hard.
People are very easy to change, if your given the chance too.