Originally Posted by Flodoard
I've been saying this forever at my college only to have people laugh at me
I'm gay, and I have no problem with the word f@ggot
back at school my friends would sometimes say "hey f*ggot" and I'd respond "Hey @sshole"
It was just playful rudeness. We all do it. So why is it that playful rudeness with regards to race/sexuality aren't ok?
if someone called me a f*ggot and meant it as an insult, that's something else. that is hurtful, not because of the word itself, but because of his hate for me that he wishes to convey to me. That is the difference
But the reason that the term "f*ggot" is used as a derogatory term, is someone uses it to negatively compare you to something else they view negatively (being gay). It's great that you don't get hurt by ignorant, hurtful words, I wish nobody did, but it's an insult, know that.
Nobody is using the term f*ggot un-insultingly with you but you don't care about it. How many times have you heard the term "f*ggot" from your friends in a positive way?
The same argument you're try to make, is said by kids who use "That's so gay" and the like. The excuse that they've heard it a million times at school, are desensitized to it now, don't think of that phrase as anything about sexuality, but is now simply about something they think is "lame".
But the reason they think it's "lame", is because someone used the term "gay", that for them, had a negative connotation to it, and turned it into a metaphor for something still negative. It does not make it ok for anyone to say. There's a lotta words you shouldn't say because of the history behind them, because a lot of people get offended, and if you don't learn not to use them, or where they came from, someone should teach you.
Look, me and all my friends growing up used every word in the book to talk to each other with, but in mixed company, at work, school, whereever, it has to be refrained from, and really there is no reason to have those references in our vocabulary in the first place.