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Lord Ferret ?? Senior Member
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04-10-2012

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Originally Posted by Rueian View Post
I'm consistantly reported for anger...
I need help getting out of this habit...
Though i think my anger is justified due to the stakes that are being wagered when i play I want to improve... Though as a company i feel Riot may not care to try to Support the fallen summoners. I'm coming to you guys... you arn't forcing me right now. I'm not suspended at the moment. I want help, suggestions, something. I dont want to keep getting reported for being angry.
What are those stakes being wagered? Did you bet your life on that game. If you lost it you would shoot yourself?

Here are some tips. Keep a pillow in your lap or next to you. Punch pillow when you get angry yell at it. But remove pillow from lap before punching it you might have bad outcome to that.

If you feel you are getting angry after the game stop playing for a little while. Go do something else. Rub one out. Talk a walk. Go to the store.Do some drugs. watch some tv.

 
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Rueian ?? Senior Member
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04-10-2012

Though its not something important to some, losing and gaining rank is something at stake. People fail to take the game seriously when that is being wagered. I don't care if you are 100 elo or 2200 elo... gaining and losing elo is a stake in each ranked game, its frustrating when players do not take it seriously.

Its like saying because the worst team of any sport continues to lose, they are just going to throw the last 5 games of their season because its not worth trying.

 
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Rueian ?? Senior Member
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04-10-2012

I seriously cant stand games where i have 0 teamwork... i get angry and end up being the one reported for the game. I need to stop doing this but its incredibly difficult for me. I want to win rank... Not be pulled down by everyone refusing to take the game seriously.

I know its going to happen but Why can't people in solo queue just come together... we have a common goal or at least we should.

If you are 'playing for fun' then you shouldn't be in ranked.

Ranked is playing to win over playing for fun
You can still play for fun but you have to be serious enough to also do whatever is necessary to win even if it limits the fun you will have.

 
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04-10-2012

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I seriously cant stand games where i have 0 teamwork... i get angry and end up being the one reported for the game. I need to stop doing this but its incredibly difficult for me. I want to win rank... Not be pulled down by everyone refusing to take the game seriously.

I know its going to happen but Why can't people in solo queue just come together... we have a common goal or at least we should.

If you are 'playing for fun' then you shouldn't be in ranked.
It's unhealthy to try and remove the fun from the game. I'd look there first. Try to play the game some like when you did when you were new. Get a buddy and experiment with some crazy duo lanes. The pros have established the meta for people at their elo but most of us regular joes aren't there and the meta isn't the gospel. I've seen some really crazy lanes. In fact I recently went against an all AP team that crushed hard in the early game and it snowballed fast.

But about anger. A lot of anger comes from irrational thoughts and beliefs. Watch the things that you say. You might end up saying "they ALWAYS" "you NEVER" "it's IMPOSSIBLE" "you MUST" "I HAVE to". When you say or think in terms of absolutes it can be easy to run down the road to anger. It takes time but if you start to pay attention to what you say you'll catch yourself and be able to take actions to calm down.

Also remember to breathe deep. It's just a proven fact that you can slow down your body by just taking a few deep breaths.

 
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Rueian ?? Senior Member
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Its hard to do that during a game.

 
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Rueian ?? Senior Member
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But i do appreciate the serious responses.
I'm trying the suggestions as i can.

 
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Its hard to do that during a game.
Sorry buddy for the late response my buddy needed a birthday dinner.

It is very hard to work on anger and frustration during the moment. One of the most irritating things to hear when you're really worked up is to be told that you have to calm down.

You probably wouldn't know it from my other Tribunal posts but I've actually spent jail time because of my own challenges with anger. (amazingly games don't anger me much so count one blessing) Having spent a few years in cognitive behavioral therapy I can tell you that I really feel your pain. It can feel as if these things are completely out of your control. Anger over time can turn minor circumstances in to burned bridges and in your current case could get you kicked out of the League.

Like in my previous post I suggest you focus on what you say. You can catch yourself if you spend time to think about it after the fact. Say you get really angry in a game and type some hurtful things. Afterwards you can write down what it is that makes you so angry. Imagine yourself writing down the following...

My team mates NEVER support me.

Is this really true? Probably not. You can probably think of some times when you've received amazing support.

From here you can say and think the more rational thought like "I'd really like it if my team mates supported me when it counts." Breaking down your thoughts like this over time can open you up to what you're really thinking about. Over time you'll unpackage a lot of the baggage you might have accidentally acquired about what MUST be. It also helps to understand that anger often stems from other emotions like being sad or afraid. You might find that you have a fear of a negative win to loss ratio. You could try to unpackage that and ask yourself why is that? Are you afraid of ridicule? Has some one done that to you before? In time you'll understand yourself better and live a life more in control with your goals lined up with your core beliefs instead of just your surface thoughts.

Also here's a few other things to remember.
1. You are your own man (or woman whichever it is!).
2. You allow yourself to be provoked. People who think otherwise are giving their control over to some one else. It's a way to avoid responsibility for what one does. When you understand that others don't actually control what you do you will understand that they can't provoke you.
3. Slow down. Spend more time considering your thoughts. Awareness of your thoughts is like a muscle that you exercise. In time you'll catch yourself before you say it. Before you snap you can catch yourself thinking "It's ALWAYS like this and if I don't do some thing about it now then it will NEVER change."

 
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Lord Ferret ?? Senior Member
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04-10-2012

dont let the trolls win. They win if they make you mad.

 
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dont let the trolls win. They win if they make you mad.
Yes the ultimate truth. In the end if you think you're getting trolled then the way to troll a troll is to just roll with it. There's nothing more dissatisfying for a troll than to realize that you don't actually care about what they say or do.

 
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Shrinking Violet ?? Senior Member
04-10-2012

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Oh, and one last sports lesson. Everyone remembers how often John McEnroe lost it. You know who holds the record for most tennis titles? That's right, Martina Navratilova, the woman who was once dubbed "the zombie".
You mean the man with the most tennis titles?

Yeah, he must have been terrible hindered by his temper. I don't suppose it might have more to do with how different men's and female's tennis are?