Originally Posted by Locust NA
And if I've done all these things, how do I just all out carry my team? I'm constantly telling people that their mistakes are "okay." "no big deal, we'll come back from that." or I'll just ping the tower we should be pushing and say, "This first, then we drag.", but nobody pays attention.
I rarely even say anything negative to anybody during the game, and if I do, our Nexus is blowing up at that point. In champion select, I always call my two best roles, and try to even help teammates pick counter picks to enemy champions. It doesn't seem to matter if I'm nice, or if I'm not, I just need to figure out the right champion and playstyle that will completely carry my teams. I think that's what I'm really needing at this point.
Point in case would be my last two ranked games where I've watched multiple people just farm overextended with no wards and then complain about being ganked 30 minutes into the game.
Or 1 person runs into 4-5 on the enemy team and legitimately thinks they're going to win it.
Or someone runs AWAY from a fight that their team is coming to back them up on. Yes, YOU might die, but your team will pick up the ace.
I need a How To Carry For Dummies book.
Imagine you're a moderately heavy drinker, and you're at a bar having a good time, and someone from across the bar says, "Hey, buddy, you need to go to AA and stop drinking."
You'd probably think, "Hey, that's none of your business, this is my life."
Now, imagine the same scenario, except the person who is telling you you need to clean up your act has gone out of their way to bail you out of numerous bad situations. They have led by example and showed that they have their sh*t together. Maybe they're a family member or a friend or a girlfriend/boyfriend or a co-worker.
Point is, you trust them because they have come through for you in the past.
If you want your team to take direction from you, you need to earn their trust.
Also, an important factor is WHO is in control?
Is the Support in control?
Is the AD Carry in control?
Is the AP Carry in control?
Who's in control?
Who's in control is partially determined by who is the tank/initiator, followed by who is most fed.
I find that when I am 2/0/8 as Jungle Cho'gath, I've pulled off several successful ganks, I have 6 stacks on my Ulti, and I'm landing my Q like a boss, people are much more receptive to my suggestions. They recognize me as the team leader and they know that if they stay behind me, good things will (usually) come about. And if I make a mistake, I acknowledge and apologize for the mistake.. I don't blame others for it. This is being a leader.
Likewise, if I am Caitlyn or Sivir and I am dominating bot lane to the point where I can 3 shot anyone on the enemy team, I will stick with my tank and they will follow me around protecting me IF they are smart.. If they are not, then I just have to follow them around and hope they put me in a position to get more kills.
If I am a Soraka or Taric, I just follow my AD carry around and if my AD carry keeps getting me and him/herself killed, I will find someone else to follow.. Usually the tank.
If I am solo-top Yorick or Garen or (whoever), I will hold my lane and take the tower and farm until I am fed enough to stroll into late game and dominate the enemy carries. I will do so by showing up when my team needs me the most, and then I will stick with my team and bolster their morale with my presence. They will know that I am willing to peel for them or that I am willing to dive and take tower hits to ensure they get a kill.
If I'm an AP Carry, I just hang out behind the tank and make plays by CCing and bursting down the enemy teams squishiest targets... But it's not my job to call the shots or push the towers, so I don't try to do that.
Bottom line.. If people aren't listening to you it's because you haven't shown you are the leader of the team OR you are playing a position which cannot be in a "leadership" role.